Quarantine fatigue has resulted in steady increases in levels of stress and anxiety, as well as loss of productivity and motivation for all ages, but especially for young adults and teens. Teens have lost social connections, the excitement of team sports and other extracurricular activities, and the structure that comes from attending classes or going to work in person. Understandably, parents are struggling to find ways to boost motivation and build confidence in teens.
Have you heard the saying “Work hard, play hard”? It used to be that if you worked hard at school, extracurriculars, and work, you could at least look forward to rewarding fun by spending time with friends, going out to dinner or movies, or enjoying your downtime doing whatever got you energized. But the restrictions of the pandemic have taken away a lot of our opportunities to “play hard”. All of this combined makes it much more difficult to muster the motivation to get anything done.
How many of you struggled with homeschooling your teens during the end of the year? School is almost back in session, and families are facing the need to prepare for distance learning in the fall… Whether parents are trying to work from home, or they are keeping the household going while everyone is at home, there is the issue of handling the constant requests for help and interruptions. Let’s face it, right now, parents are wearing many hats, including productive business professional, homeschool teacher, chef and professional cat herder.
What if I told you that it doesn’t have to be the chaotic mess we all experienced in the spring?
Does your teen really have time for all those activities? Or, are they totally overscheduled? Or is it a combination of too much to do, but also way too much time lost to electronics and other distractions? Time management is a constant source of discussions in most homes as we try to teach our teens to take ownership of their own activities and accomplish everything they are trying to do.
I know my teens find it challenging to fit it all in. And as much as we all agree that having downtime is valuable to recharge, sometimes their free time is wasted in things that don’t make them feel rested, refreshed, and ready to tackle school and extracurricular activities. Plus it’s critical for teens to also have downtime that they can count on to relax and recharge.
This summer is flying by! At least that’s what it feels like at our house. It seems like the end of school only gave way to tired teens and tired parents. We tried to give our kids time to recover, sleeping in, extra time with their friends, knowing that the first month they would still be pretty busy with tennis camps, dance competitions, chores, and family activities. And now we’re halfway through the summer, and it seems that we’ve fallen into some bad habits of too much time in front of electronics, and maybe not enough motivation to get away from them.
Teens are told all the time to find a passion, find their sense of purpose. But that’s not so easy to do without some serious self-reflection. Is your teen having trouble figuring out what makes them truly happy? A vision board for teens could be the key to unleashing their dreams!
A vision board that shows them their dreams NOW, like going to a specific university, playing varsity sports, getting the lead in a school play, or publishing a website or podcast, can be a very powerful tool for self-motivation.
EMPOWER YOUR TEENS
Take the guesswork out of achieving goals and increasing self confidence by developing a growth mindset!
This step-by-step guide:
walks parents and teens through defining goals that are in line with our teens’ dreams and passions
provides detailed explanations breaking tasks into manageable and doable activities
uses simple worksheets to illustrate the process of defining a SMART goal
presents blank worksheets and templates so your teen can work along as they learn goal setting
adds insightful advice for parents to work alongside their teens