Quarantine fatigue has resulted in steady increases in levels of stress and anxiety, as well as loss of productivity and motivation for all ages, but especially for young adults and teens. Teens have lost social connections, the excitement of team sports and other extracurricular activities, and the structure that comes from attending classes or going to work in person. Understandably, parents are struggling to find ways to boost motivation and build confidence in teens.
Have you heard the saying “Work hard, play hard”? It used to be that if you worked hard at school, extracurriculars, and work, you could at least look forward to rewarding fun by spending time with friends, going out to dinner or movies, or enjoying your downtime doing whatever got you energized. But the restrictions of the pandemic have taken away a lot of our opportunities to “play hard”. All of this combined makes it much more difficult to muster the motivation to get anything done.
Whether teens realize it or not, they set goals every single day. From going to the movies with their friends, to planning a school project, to getting in some extra workouts to try out for the varsity team. The question is, do they know they’re doing this, and do they know how to do it in a way that actually helps them achieve their goal. So, you might be thinking, how can I help my teen set goals effectively, and help them improve their chances of success?
As adults, we understand that goal setting is an important life skill that can make your days productive and build your confidence as you make progress towards your goals. We hear stories all the time about successful people, and how they regularly set goals. And we would love it if our own kids would “get it” and see how important it is to set goals effectively.
Has your teen ever had a big science project or paper to submit at school, assigned at the beginning of the semester and they somehow forget to work on it at all until one or two days before it was due? How did that go? A little crazed, rushed, and probably with not great results, am I right?
How could that been different? Well, one way to make sure that your teen to make progress towards an end goal in a way that is more efficient, is to make it measurable.
Does your teen seems to always get stuck not knowing where to start, no matter what small or big goal they are trying to achieve?
Living spontaneously and in the moment is a great thing. But it’s not great if you end up spinning your wheels because you don’t even know where to start.
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: Teens have SO much going on! So much earlier than we had to. College prep, varsity sports, volunteer work/community service, the list goes on and on. They will need to build some pretty solid planning skills and habits to get through all of it.
So what’s the key? Goals have to be actionable. That is the only way to make sure they will know what steps to take, and don’t waste valuable time spinning their wheels.
EMPOWER YOUR TEENS
Take the guesswork out of achieving goals and increasing self confidence by developing a growth mindset!
This step-by-step guide:
walks parents and teens through defining goals that are in line with our teens’ dreams and passions
provides detailed explanations breaking tasks into manageable and doable activities
uses simple worksheets to illustrate the process of defining a SMART goal
presents blank worksheets and templates so your teen can work along as they learn goal setting
adds insightful advice for parents to work alongside their teens